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November 7, 2005School Health Programs Department
Tips for Parents for Helping Students Recovering from Traumatic Events
Children will react in their own way and in their own time to their disaster experience. Most reactions are normal and typically go away with time. Parents should be observant, though, if this does not happen.

1. Often children will cling to parents and may not want to be away from them. When a child shows excessive clinging and unwillingness to let a parent out of sight, the child is expressing fear and anxiety of separation or loss. These fears should dissolve when the threat of danger dissipates and children feel secure again under a parent's protection. Parents should give them comfort and reassure them that they are safe. Once they feel safe, they'll begin to let go.

2. Some children need to talk about a traumatic experience all the time and others don't want to talk at all. This is normal. While it is important not to force children to talk about their experiences, it is also critical for parents to let them know they're willing to listen, and then, to listen.

3. Anxiety about disaster experiences and problems sometimes keeps children awake at night, or nightmares might wake them. Temporary changes in sleeping arrangements following a disaster may be helpful, such as parents letting children put sleeping bags on the floor in their room or sleeping closer to them at first. After a brief period of temporary changes, it is helpful to move back to pre-disaster bedtime routines.

4. Giving children choices helps them feel some control when their environment has felt out of control. Choosing food, clothes, what games to play—any appropriate choices—can be helpful.

5. Children still need discipline. It helps them feel safe to know their parents won't let them get away with too much and that normal rules still apply.

6. Going to a new school is hard, especially now. Parents may want to see if they can visit the school with their child ahead of time.

7. Enabling children to stay in contact with their old friends or even children they met in a shelter can help them feel that their whole world is not gone. The child's new school may want to help evacuated children get in touch with friends also relocated in the area.

8. Parents will want to establish daily routines as soon as they can. Meals, bedtimes and other regular parts of their day can help children feel comforted and know what to expect.

9. Sometimes students react to trauma and stress with anger. They may feel it gives them a sense of control. Adults should be understanding but hold children responsible for their behavior. It is not OK to hurt others and break other home and school rules, even if students are stressed.

10. It doesn't help younger children to watch coverage of the disaster over and over. However, some older adolescents may find viewing some factual media reports helpful in order to better understand the disaster and recovery efforts. As an alternative, parents may want to read newspaper accounts with their child.

11. Parents should remember to take good care of themselves, too. This will help them have the energy necessary to take care of their children. Their ability to cope with this disaster will help their children cope as well.

Originals Holiday Gift Show
Revving up the Bay Area’s holiday shopping motors, the Originals Holiday Gift Show, formerly known as the Harvest Festival, will take over San Francisco’s Concourse Exhibition Center, November 11 – 13. With more than 300 exhibitors, the Originals Holiday Gift Show is set to be the most original, one-of-a-kind, jewelry, photography, paintings, pottery, ceramics, home décor, clothing and specialty foods show in the country.

New for this year, the Originals Holiday Gift Show will feature a “Rising Star” showcase of up and coming artists, along with a New Product Showcase of innovations, mingled with other first time and favorite artist faces, all set to bring a fresh experience to savvy Bay Area shoppers.

Among the features at the Originals Holiday Gift Show:

• Slow Burn Glass – San Francisco’s own Bryan Goldenberg, a newcomer to the show, will display “hot” selections of unique glasswork, including vases, sculptures and creations inspired by Goldenberg’s trips to Murano, Italy. Slow Burn Glass artwork will be displayed in the New Product Showcase.
Barbary Coast Cloggers (BCC) will bring their rowdiness and unique spirit to the show throughout the weekend. The BCC is comprised of 10 Bay Area residents who keep their day jobs while dazzling crowds across the country with foot stomping music and dance for over 20 years.
• New Kids Zone, Sponsored by Michaels, the Art and Craft Store – this new, hands on and free show feature will provide kids of all ages the opportunity to create their own original arts and crafts.

If you want something original, you’ll find it at the Originals Holiday Gift Show. The show provides savvy shoppers with the unique opportunity to find one-of-a-kind treasures by local and up and coming artists, as well as speak directly with the entrepreneurs who create the items. Entertainment throughout the weekend adds a unique shopping environment for shoppers of all ages. Guests are also encouraged to sample the savory sauces, flavored dipping oils, mouth watering fudge and other tasty treats that make the Originals Holiday Gift Show a delectable shopping experience.

Originals Holiday Gift Show (Formerly known as the Harvest Festival)
WHEN: November 11 – 13, 2005
WHERE: Concourse Exhibition Center, 635 8th Street, San Francisco, CA
TIME: Friday 10am-7pm, Saturday 10am-7pm, Sunday 10am-5pm
COST: General: $8.50, Seniors (60+) $7.50, Youth (13–17): $4
Children 12 and under: Free when accompanied by an adult.
* Special Buy One, Get One Free Admission on Friday of the Show; $1 off coupons available online
INFO: www.originalsholidaygiftshow.com

Listening to Students [part 1 of 2]
Engagement and achievement rise when students have a voice in classroom decisions.
by Susan Black, American School Board Journal

My dad enforced one rule with an iron hand: Children are to be seen and not heard. I grew up learning not to argue, protest, or offer an opinion. Such behavior was considered "sass" or "backtalk" and was met with punishment that made it hard to sit for a few days.

Some of my teachers imposed the same rule. They expected me and my classmates to sit still, pay attention, and not make a sound. They didn’t resort to paddling, but I remember getting demerits and detention -- and lower grades -- for whispering in class.

In many schools, keeping kids silent is a thing of the past, and from what studies show, the change is happening none too soon.

Giving students a voice in classroom decisions -- such as suggesting themes and topics to study -- and in school policies -- such as homework regulations -- makes schools less autocratic and more democratic. And democratic schools, researchers say, tend to have fewer discipline problems, more civic involvement, higher student engagement, and higher achievement. Plus, schools that genuinely seek and appreciate students' ideas are more likely to see their school improvement plans succeed.

Even so, the idea of giving students a voice in school matters sometimes meets with skepticism and open resistance.

An administrator in a city district, for example, told me disgruntled high school teachers destroyed hundreds of surveys in which seniors had described their best and worst learning experiences. And in Maine, a high school principal looked askance at a business teacher's cooperative groups. One day he heard 10th-graders discussing working conditions and low pay at a local factory. The next day the teacher found a note from the principal: "Your students would learn more if you kept them quiet at all times."

Negotiating student voice

Why deny students opportunities to speak up and share ideas? In an ERIC document, John Kordalewski says the notion that "knowledge resides entirely with the teacher" keeps teachers talking and students mostly silent.

Kordalewski recommends trading in this traditional model of learning for one based on teacher-student dialogue. He proposes that teachers and students "negotiate curriculum" each time they embark on new classroom topics by working together on this learning sequence:

1. Share what they already know about the topic.
2. Agree on what is important and what they want to learn.
3. Determine how they will learn new information.
4. Plan how they will assess their learning.

Giving a voice to students works in all subjects, but Kordalewski uses history as an example. In the best history courses, teachers prompt students to think and learn like actual historians -- raising interesting questions and digging deep for answers beyond their textbooks. I saw this process at work in a classroom full of disadvantaged, mostly minority, kids.

The teacher, who calls himself a "co-learner" with his 11th-graders, introduced the topic of immigration and invited his students to narrow it down to questions they wanted to pursue as historians and researchers. The kids proposed several questions, including these:

- How have ethnic neighborhoods in our city changed in the past 100 years?
- Do government immigration policies support the concept of a "melting pot?"
- Why do some immigrants risk their lives, and the lives of their families, to come to America?

I didn't have to strain to hear these students' voices. They were clear, focused, and articulate -- anything but the "marginalized voice" Australian researchers Ross Booker and Doune Macdonald say is the best students could expect at many schools.

Silenced at school

Students' words matter, says Carole Gallagher of Indiana University, Columbus. In a 2002 study, she discovered that most school dropouts have been "systematically silenced," not only in curriculum but also in how their schools are run.

Gallagher's case study of four Indiana dropouts -- Molly, Chris, John, and Casey -- reveals a troubling pattern. Three of the four teens vividly recalled enjoying their elementary school experiences. "It was the time I was the happiest, and I had a large amount of friends," said Molly. Casey and Chris had similar memories.

But Molly, described as "articulate and introspective," dropped out at 16. Casey left school at 17, and Chris left at 18 during his senior year. John, a quiet youth, experienced episodes of racial discrimination and dropped out at 18 with just two credits needed to graduate.

Gallagher's interviews reveal the kids' alienation. None of the teens felt their high school was hospitable, and none felt they would be missed. Chris assessed the situation this way: "It was just a battle ... you had all these people everywhere ... but I didn’t fit in." Molly expressed the same sentiment: "I didn't fit in ... I felt really out of place; you just knew that underneath people didn't like you. I tried to pay attention to my teachers and not cause problems ... but by the end I got so I was speaking my mind more freely."

The problem was, no one listened.

All four kids emphasized that, emotionally, they were better off out of high school, and all four have gone on to pursue GEDs. But not all dropouts regain their initiative, and Gallagher urges schools to pay attention to those who "quietly disappear." To prevent kids from slipping away in the first place, she encourages schools to reach out to parents and students through "democratic discourse about the school experience" in which all voices can be heard.

Wellness Center
Jennifer Kenny-Baum (Wellness Coordinator) is available daily.

Monica Murphy (Nurse) is available daily.

Ian Enriquez (Youth Outreach Coordinator) is available daily.

Sheening Lin (psychologist) is available daily.

Ulash Thakore (Academic Counselor) is available Monday thru Wednesday.

German Cheung (Counselor) is available on Mondays.

Sonia Sztejnklaper (Russian Speaking Counselor) is available on Mondays.

Suong Vo (Vietnamese Speaking Counselor) is available on Mondays.

Kory Okun (Relationship Counselor) is available Tuesdays.

Wayne Hayes (Counselor) is available on Wednesdays.

James Guay (Therapist) is available on Wednesdays.

Pauline Ong (Cantonese Speaking Counselor) is available on Wednesdays.

Megan Agee (Community Safety Organizer) is available on Thursdays.

Alex Dang (Vietnamese Speaking Counselor) is available on Fridays.

Vicky Fashho (Arabic Speaking Counselor) is available on Fridays

Recommendations for High School Parents
Understand that there is overwhelming research showing that parents who are involved in the right way in their high school children’s lives can have an enormous impact on student achievement.

- Help your children select their courses each year and encourage them to take the most challenging math classes possible.

- Make sure your children have a quiet place to study.

- Help your children at home with school assignments by showing an interest in their work and confidence in their abilities to complete them.

- Sit down to a meal with your children as often as possible and discuss what happened during everyone’s day.

- Reserve the right to know where your children are at all times.

- Seize every opportunity to attend school events with your children.

- Research postsecondary options with your child and support him or her to pursue them even if you never did.

- Limit television for your high school children to one hour or less per day.

- Talk with your children regularly about life after high school.

  

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